I thought as a society Australia had sunk pretty low with the vindictive nature of the ‘morning after rape‘. The morning after rape however is pretty straight forward, you get drunk, find a guy, have sex, wake up the next morning and scream about how he forced you into bed and raped you.

The group sex “victim” however takes this concept to a whole new level.

Gone are the shock days of the 90′s when a man would take a woman home and the next minute ten Holden Commodores full of Habib’s rock up and all have their way with her.

No, these days we’re seeing more and more women getting on their all fours, having consensual group sex and then deciding the entire experience was traumatic and degraded them. Seriously, I want to meet the woman who thinks having a bunch of guys do you six ways from Sunday is a confidence and character building exercise.

It’s time men stopped becoming scapegoats every time a woman realises having group sex with a sports star or musician won’t make the object of their desire fall in love with them.

Matthew Johns has become the defacto posterboy for disillusioned scorned women. Originally outed by a welfare collecting coward he has now been fired from channel nine and pretty much had his career flushed down the toilet.

Why?

Because a woman he had consensual group sex with seven years ago claims the event ruined her life.

“I was so angry and I wanted their lives destroyed like mine was. If I had a gun I’d shoot them right now. I hate them. They disgust me. For all that they did, I hate them so much.”

She said the destructive period lasted about four or five years and she was now speaking out to let the wives and girlfriends of those involved know what they had done.

Well mission accomplished Ms. “consensual group sex”. Because you can’t come to terms with what you engaged in you’ve now successfully trashed the lives of innocent men and their families, all from the ivory tower of anonymity.

Usually not even the most bitter of divorcees get to create such havoc in other people’s lives.

Christchurch police Detective Sergeant Neville Jenkins said that in the years after the incident he saw the woman “struggling with life”.

“I didn’t know her prior to this episode, but presumably I’m led to believe this is as a result of what happened to her at that time,” he said.

And here we have a giant hole in this woman’s story. Really, does it need to be said that a woman who is obsessed with a sports star enough that she is willing to be pounded to a pulp by six penises one night have pre-existing emotional problems?

Let’s put two and two together. Mathew John’s is a rugby player and a woman with starstruck eyes believes she is going to get up close and personal with him. A few of his mates want in on the action and she’s ok with that because she thinks this is what he wants. Everyone has a good time and the night comes to an end.

Disillusioned woman never hears from rugby player again and then the hard reality of being used hits her like a ton of bricks.

Waah… they abused me.

Waah… they degraded me.

Waah… I feel violated.

Waah… my parents and friends found out I was a sperm sponge for a night.

Waah… I consented to all of it.

So what the hell is the problem here? Last I checked consensual sex in a group wasn’t illegal and whilst i’m not going to pretend it’s a romantic love filled affair the fact of the matter is it happened and no amount of finger pointing or claiming to be a victim (of what?) is going to change it.

In contrast to the John’s case, I’d now like to draw your attention to what I can only describe as Australian Parents of the Year.

What do brilliant caring parents do?? They let their fifteen year old daughter go to a rock concert, attend an alcohol fueled after party, get shitfaced and then do the band.

Thankfully though in this case, unlike the Mathew Johns case, the sticking point is the girls age and not the group sex she engaged in. In Australia it’s illegal for an adult to have sex with a fifteen year old so two of the band members who have been sentenced were given good behaviour bonds.

Isn’t it amazing the difference in how the two cases have been played out.

In the Johns case where there are million dollar contracts and celebrity names at stake the media has a field day and all of a sudden everyone is all like ‘woah group sex? how terrible! I can’t believe those nasty men would do that to the innocent virgin who was on her way to deliver some muffins to grandma’s house!’ Whereas in the musician case it is quietly swept under the media carpet.

Group sex isn’t something new and despite the spectacle and scandal of it sadly it’s still all too easy for the female participant to claim victim many years later and harp on about how hard done by she was.

Hey ladies, a gangbang won’t make you more popular, it won’t boost your self esteem, it won’t nab you a sports star husband and it certainly won’t solve and pre-existing problems in your life. So how about you just get over the fact that you tried it and didn’t like it instead of pointing the finger at everyone else for a change.