Cleanliness is next to godliness (or buddhaness?)
I’m not quite sure about the significance of it, but this Monday marks Chinese Valentines day here in Taiwan. Due to Monday being a craptastic day for hanging out with your significant other, the bulk of Taiwanese people celebrate their Valentines day over the weekend.
Having been seeing a girl steadily for about a month now and completely missing February’s Valentines day due to being single, this time around I had no excuse.
When you live in a country where you can barely read anything and you’re at the stage where speaking to people is still mostly a chore due to language barriers, trying to organise anything remotely romantic is an uphill battle.
Asking other guys for help seems a bit weird, asking other single girls is a no-no because you leave them feeling depressed and asking taken girls is a waste of time as you either make them insanely jealous and cop flak from their boyfriends, or they’re too busy organising their own day.
In the end I settled for some good old fashion flowers. On the day however I realised I had no idea where to buy any. My foolproof plan on relying on roadside vendors to pop up over the weekend fell through due to the utter lack of aforementioned roadside vendors.
No shit, when Chinese New Year rolls around every guy with a blue truck is out there peddling fireworks. The rest of the year you can buy edible organs from animals you’ve never even heard of prepared for you out the back of a truck, but try find roadside flowers on Valentines day weekend?
That’s crazy talk.
With time running out I launched plan B. We’d agreed that due to my complete lack of knowledge of what to do in Taiwan romance wise (and the personal acknowledgement of still very much learning the Taiwanese girl psyche, romantic or otherwise), she’d organise the bulk of the day. I later found out she’d already gone ahead and organised what we were doing before I suggested it, so at least we seemed to be on the same wavelength about what the limitations of my planning skills were.
Still, manners wise I had to contribute something and Plan B was a post dinner bubble bath. I’d originally wanted to do it with candles but couldn’t find any nice smelly scented ones. That and I’m not exactly sure how our fire alarm system works… but I’m pretty sure that setting it off wouldn’t be romantic.
You can burn half a forest of lucky money outside your door, that’s cool – but burning anything inside your house in Taiwan is generally frowned upon.
Her side of the day went quite well. We had a late start to the day due to sleeping in, dinner was awesome, we shared some great views of Taipei from way up in the mountains somewhere and then finished up with a stroll through one of the nightmarkets (I forget which one).
After we got home I surprised her with my idea and it seemed to go down really well. She’d never had a bubble bath before and got all excited.
Whilst she munched on some of the fruit we’d bought from the nightmarket I began to prepare the bath. Fifteen minutes later or so it was done.
At this point I called out it was ready and did what any normal person would do, I started to undress.
About halfway into getting my clothes off she came bursting into the bathroom with a horrified look on her face.
‘WAIT WAIT WAIT, you haven’t taken a shower yet!’ she blurted out in an accusing tone.
‘uh… what?’
‘a shower, a shower! You can’t get in the bath you’re all dirty!’
‘what do you mean dirty, we didn’t do anything today. We just had dinner and went up to the mountains!’
‘doesn’t matter, you went outside. Have to have a shower! You can’t have a bath dirty!’
‘The bath is supposed to replace a shower! That’s the whole point!’
‘No no no, the bath is clean. You have to have a shower first!’
At this point she started to undress in front of me and for a moment I stood there next to the bath, silently weighing up my options.
…with the smallest of sighs I reached for the portable shower head and began to wash myself down. Despite the absurdity of her logic, standing there naked infront of me was a pretty convincing argument.
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August 15th, 2010 at 8:24 pm Andy(Quote)
I must say that before taking a bath I will always shower first. No way on earth I will soak myself in my sweat or dirt without rinsing off first. This part depends on how knit picky one is for hygiene and I am quite picky about stuff like this.
My wife will be as dirty as can be walk in to the bathroom,fill the bath tub up, take a bath in the bath tub and then dry herself up. Like getting a tub of water with soap and just washing the car with that tub of water and soap without first rinsing the car or washing your dishes in a sink of water without rinsing them off first.
Sorry but in this case I must side with your girlfriend.
August 15th, 2010 at 11:11 pm Erica(Quote)
haha very funny! You mentioned that still trying to learn TW’s girls’ psyche, romance and all, I thought one of your exs was TWese? btw, a tip for you – don’t forget the presents! that’s a MUST for asian girls!
August 16th, 2010 at 1:43 pm lemmiwinks(Quote)
It’s an asian thing – Japanese take a shower first, then bath for relaxation. After always having baths as a little kid, I have to admit that I can see their point about sitting around in your own dirt.
August 16th, 2010 at 2:37 pm ozsoapbox(Quote)
@Andy
I always have a shower after a bath (to try get rid of the ‘lazy’ feeling of sitting in hot/warm water for so long), and I guess to ‘wash off’ but I’ve never had one before… do people drink the water or what that it’s such an issue?
You say picky, I say cotton wooled
I’m guilty of both of those. The car one always (the soap doesn’t care if it goes onto a dirty car or not), and not rinsing dishes sometimes… usually depending on how lazy I feel.
That’s cool, but we won’t tell her that!
Yeah she was but she had lived in Australia since she was ten (27 when I started dating her), so she was quite westernised. There’s a big difference between Taiwanese girls who’ve only gone on holiday and those that have lived overseas for a bit.Even though they speak fluent English the ones that haven’t lived overseas come with a bit of a steep learning curve.
Oh cmon, surely Taiwanese girls aren’t all that shallow!August 16th, 2010 at 3:40 pm Erica(Quote)
well…… I can’t speak for all TWs girls but I guess soon you will find out!
August 16th, 2010 at 3:59 pm ozsoapbox(Quote)
Maybe!
I was talking to another girl about what exactly happens on Chinese Valentines day here seeing as I had no idea.
She said her happiest memory was when one of her ex boyfriends bought her 999 roses. I orginally thought she meant he spent $999 NTD on a rose and told her that I hoped it was some special kind of rose.
She corrected me and told me she meant he actually bought her 999 roses.
I definitely had one of those ‘oh shit’ moments.
August 16th, 2010 at 7:27 pm Ralb38(Quote)
HAHA this post is funny – twas pretty amusing seeing as I’m a Taiwanese girl too. And no… we’re not ALL that shallow =)
August 16th, 2010 at 10:57 pm Erica(Quote)
lol sounds familiar! many of my friends are quite, um, lets just say, money mad!
August 17th, 2010 at 12:50 am Erica(Quote)
Im sure youre not shallow but at the same time, if your partner doesn’t bring you a present on a special occassion (i.e. b’day, valentines), you wouldnt be too impressed would you?
August 17th, 2010 at 5:37 pm Andy(Quote)
Everything is about money here in Taiwan from the moment they are born till the day they are buried in their coffin. I did not know about this until I had actually seen someone that had died being placed in their coffin. The coffin is packed with fake money. They spend a long time packing that coffin with fake money and try an pack as much of it in there as they can believing that this money will be used on his or her new journey in their new life.
Once packed the body with the money is cremated. Kind of funny as during their entire life they burn fake money and at the end of their life they are placed in a coffin and burned together with the fake money. So much for believing in God along with heaven and hell.
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